Seasons of Love: Self-love practices through periods of change

Greetings, Friends! (:

I thought for a while about the topic for my next entry and felt like it was appropriate, with Valentine’s Day being tomorrow, to compose an entry about self-love and self-care. We can all be better for ourselves and after all, love begins with establishing a sense of self.

Whether you are ‘celebrating’ Valentine’s Day as a single person or as a taken lover, the tips within this entry will help anyone and everyone who wishes to open themselves up to healing.

  • Plus, this healing is ongoing and is not limited to a day where people buy stuff for each other to proclaim their affections towards each other.

If you would have asked me 10 to 15 years ago if I loved myself, I would have straight up said, “no.” From when I was in the 5th grade, in elementary school, I battled an aggressive eating disorder along with body dysmorphia and that lasted well into my late twenties. It took many years of working on myself to re-calibrate my mind and learn to appreciate me for who and what I am. At 37 years old, I cannot say that I have cracked the code on how to love thy self, but I have learned incredible lessons along the journey of coming home to myself.

As the seasons change and as we age, growing wiser with each passing year, we become more in tune with ourselves. We being developing a taste for what our soul hungers for and do what we must to have more of what we crave in our lives. The bottom line is that we all deserve to find happiness. If you are a magickal practitioner, it’s normal to get swept away by life and get carried away from our practices and rituals. They help cement a solid foundation for us and create that stability. When we come back to ourselves, man, does it feel wonderful to come back home.

  • And on a personal note: this is where I am in my healing journey.
    • I am finding an appreciation to do actions from my heart and the result is profound joy.

Here are some of my tips and rituals to help benefit those who have an open heart and wish to heal:

1.) Put on a happy face:

Fran Drescher, one of my all-time idols, once said in an episode of “The Nanny” that “When you look good, you feel good.” She was definitely onto something quite awe inspiring!

  • For me, part of my beauty ritual is to put on my rose water toner and massage my face with a Rose Quartz roller.
    • Then, I will put on some moisturizer, some make-up, spritz on my favorite perfume (Givenchy’s L’Interdit or Amarige for those curious) and put a few pieces of jewelry from my ‘Tiffany & Company’ collection.
      • I am dolling myself up for me, despite working from home each day.
  • I also will take a moment, in the mirror to look at myself and will smile to myself.
    • Back in the day, THIS task was difficult for me to do.
      • When you are learning how to love yourself, it’s daunting to look at yourself in the mirror and smile at yourself. It takes time, practice, patience and an open heart.
  • To add an element of witchcraft into this practice, all of my makeup and my RQ roller are cleansed and charged under the moon.
    • Certain intentions have been set for each beauty item that I will use as well.
      • It adds power and intention!
  • My favorite beauty item is my lipstick and lately, I have been playing with different hues. I am known for wearing a bold red lip and have adopted a soft pink/coral into my makeup bag. I wear lipstick all day long and have gotten to a point where, “A girl can’t (fill in the blank) that sort of thing without her lipstick.”
    • A wee nod to my favorite actress, Audrey Hepburn who played Holly Golightly in “Breakfast At Tiffany’s.

Being able to get myself ready for the day helps me feel better and more productive. I feel like I can conquer anything that is thrown in my lap throughout the day. It gives me confidence!

2.) Drink out of a fancy glass when you eat, just because you can:

My grandmother has a closet full of Waterford crystal and I was lucky to inherit some pieces from her collection. I adore using a champagne flute and a goblet when I prepare a meal for myself.

  • Why wait for a special occasion to drink out of a beautiful glass?
    • I never understood why these beautiful glasses will sit, upon a shelf, in a cabinet, collecting dust and not be used… ever. They deserve to be used and appreciated!
      • Celebrate each moment within your life, even the smallest of moments– they count too!

It has become a ritual to break out my special glass and use it whenever I cook a meal for myself: whether it’s breakfast or dinner, it allows me to appreciate the cooking that I have done and savor it.

Here’s my wee blessing for you, my Dear Friend: I toast to you! May you always appreciate and value yourself! Celebrate you on this day. May your goblet be hydrating and full and as you drink from it, may it replenish your spirit! Slàinte Mhath!

3.) Create a ‘feel good’ playlist!:

Music is the ultimate connector of souls and the healer of wounds.

Within my studio and in my home, music is a constant force within it. Whether it’s Billy Joel, Enya or Mozart, having music dance around my living space is beautiful. I even created a playlist for when I am putting on my ‘happy face’ in the morning. It makes all the difference in the world.

Get creative and make a playlist! You can make one for just about anything. For myself, I have playlists that are dedicated to: meditations, Avalon-inspired music, rituals, songs that get in touch with my inner-witch, music for when I am composing my book- the list goes on!

Creating a playlist will help motivate you to do what you wish or need to get done.

4.) Adopt a self-care practice:

This year, one of my goals was to learn how to tend to my nails– both hands and feet. Each week, I tend to them and can say that it’s been a fun experience to learn how to care of them. I now have a new appreciation for my hands.

Other self-care practices that you could incorporate would be journaling, meditating, exercising, Reiki treatments, taking baths, cooking healthier meals, get a weekly or monthly massage, craft a magickal simmer pot (I love these!), take a yoga class.

The sky is the limit! Be bold and adventure into different ways that you can care for yourself. Remember, you are worthy and deserving of this! Caring for yourself and making that time is important. You need it.

5.) Candle Magick:

Pink is the color of love– love of self and love of another.

In my studio, I like to burn a dressed pink candle to remind myself that I am worth that love and its energies that I am manifesting. Sometimes, we forget that and this is a great way to remind yourself that you are deserving of the love that you wish for.

6.) Daily mantras and affirmations:

I started adopting this into my practice several years ago and I found this to be quite profound. For this ritual, you’d stand in front of your mirror and speak to yourself, from the heart.

Some mantras and affirmations that you can use… and you can create your own as well:

  • I am healing myself.
  • I am beautiful and worthy of love.
  • I am a radiant being.
  • I love myself.
  • I am worthy of success and greatness.
  • I deserve to be happy.
  • The life that I dream of is within my reach.

7.) Buy yourself flowers:

If Miley Cyrus taught us anything last year with her Grammy winning hit song “Flowers” it was that we can buy our own darn flowers and love ourselves, unapologetically.

Why wait for someone else to buy them? Personally, I think it’s rot. I find it lovely and empowering to buy them for myself (especially if I am going to be working with them, magickally).

If you have a lovely vase to put them in to admire, even better! AND when you are finished admiring your roses, if you are a fan of roses, that is, you can make Rose Water, my favorite magickal water!

8.) Take yourself out for a date:

It could be a cup of coffee, which happens to be my favorite date, especially when I have a book or a tarot deck in hand. You can even take yourself out to the beach or park. Spend the day being outside with yourself, enjoying your life.

9.) The Healing Energies of Crystals:

In my previous entry, I covered some of the magickal properties and uses of this powerful crystal. Rose Quartz is a powerhouse crystal and it can help someone who is struggling with low self-esteem.

Here’s that entry for those who are curious:

And sure, this can open up the door to working with other amazing crystals and believe me, you will expand on your collection in no time! Maybe part of your self-love and self-care practice is to gift yourself a new crystal every now and then! (:

When working with crystals, just make sure that you cleanse and charge them regularly, especially if you are going to be wearing them daily as jewelry or carrying them on you.

10.) Burn shit up:

My cauldron is my sacred tool. When I need to release energies and tension, I light it on fire and create a ritual out of it.

11.) Craft a sacred bath:

As a Water Witch, I gather strength and find solace within the healing element of the water. I enjoy infusing my bath water with fresh rose petals, sprigs of rosemary and other herbal/floral additions that I fancy. Before stepping into the water, I will give the water Reiki to infuse the water with healing energies and with each ingredient, I will continue to infuse Reiki energy into the tub.

On days when I am feeling quite drained, I will do this. When I step out of the tub, I am refreshed and invigorated.

To the Anti-Valentine’s Day Souls:

Now, if you are someone who is against Valentine’s Day as a whole entity, I am right there right you. We all have our reasons for disliking the day and yes, it brings up traumas for different people.

In fact, I will share with you a personal story that not too many people know about me and my family:

Valentine’s Day has been somewhat of a cursed day within my family. My grandfather passed away on Valentine’s Day and growing up, children in elementary/grade school were quite cruel to me on this horrid ‘holiday’. I was avoided at all costs by the majority of my classmates and rumors about how ‘if Freya had a Valentine, you’d die just like her grandfather’ circulated throughout the school and the hallways. Goddess forbid if I had a crush and attempted to give him a Valentine… I was ridiculed in front of the entire class– and that happened, twice! I avoided the day throughout my entire life (including my adult life) but this year, I plan on celebrating the day a wee bit differently.

In my life, I have two people who I love more than anything in the world: my child and my grandmother. We have adventures each day and show our love for each other all day long. Our love is not limited to one day of the year, it is ongoing! On Valentine’s Day, we plan on having a wee party. I am going to make a strawberry cake, some heart cookies and we’ll have some ice cream floats. Maybe I will make a heart shaped pizza too!

I want to teach my child that we show our affections and appreciations constantly towards the ones that we love, not just a day marketed to people to buy a bunch of flowers and candy.

  • Since my child is the next generation, and I do not want my trauma of a stupid, silly holiday passing onto them, it’s important for me to be better and to teach my child about what the day represents.
  • We will also talk a wee bit about my grandfather, their great-grandfather.
    • I have some pictures that I have pulled out that I will show them.
    • Later on, we will light a candle for my grandfather.

Self-love practices are ongoing and we will cultivate different modalities of healing as we go through life. Sure, it’s normal to get discouraged, at times, but never forget that you are worthy of this time. Like with many things in life, this is a practice and you’ll get the hang of it. I believe in you ❤

Sending you much love!

FB.

Crystal series- Rose Quartz

Good day to you, Friends! I hope that you are doing well and that you are having a wonderful day, as always.

A new addition that I wanted to add into my blog was to compose a “Crystal series.” This week, we will be learning about “Rose Quartz“- the stone of love and healing of the heart. Each week, I will be posting about a specific crystal and the entry will include:

  • How to utilize it in you everyday life.
  • It’s uses and magickal properties.
  • Other useful information.

Let’s get to it (:

While working in Salem, MA, it was evident that this crystal was one that was hard to keep on the shelves. Rose Quartz is associated with matters of the heart. There were many times when love struck individuals would come into the shoppe, searching for a candle that would bring a lover back to them and upon reading the description of what a tumbled ‘Rose Quartz’ could do, the stone would get snatched up and added to an order. Personally, I find that this crystal can be utilized in many ways than just ‘love’, so let’s hop into it:

  • I have always described Rose Quartz as a ‘warm blanket that you have just taken out of the dryer and wrapped around yourself.’ It wraps you up in a blanket of love!
    • If you are someone who is struggling with self-image, self-love, confidence, battling an eating disorder or anything else that requires an instant “pick me up”, Rose Quartz can help heal your heart and find that love to have for yourself.
      • Personal story: When I was in recovery of my Eating Disorder many, many years ago, a close friend gave me a piece of Rose Quartz to remind me to ‘heal with grace.’
        • This crystal, from my own personal experience, works wonders and can support with that healing!
    • It will absorb the hurt or disappointment that you maybe feeling and replaces those feelings with peace, love and healing.
  • Rose Quartz will gently open your heart to love, especially if you have been through a break up.
  • Rose Quartz can help us embrace kindness, compassion, learn how to trust our hearts and find the bravery to trust in others again.
  • Rose Quartz reminds us that love is all around you! Whether it is the love of friends, family, your animal companions, there is love to be celebrated.
  • Yes, Rose Quartz can assist with bringing in a lover into your life– but be careful– you want the partner that will best match your frequencies and be the best match for you.
  • If you are experience a death in your family and are grieving, Rose Quartz can help soothe your heart:
    • As a Death Doula/Midwife, there has been plenty of times when I would gift families tumbled Rose Quartz crystals for them as they navigated their grief.
  • With regards to physical heart health issues, Rose Quartz assists with strengthening and balancing the heart:
    • It assist with better blood circulation and flow and can assist with high blood pressure.
      • Personal story: Whenever I am stressed out, I tend to feel “it” a lot in my chest. With my family’s history of Heart health issues, I am very careful with these concerns.
        • I will meditate and or wear a piece of Rose Quartz over my heart to absorb that anxious/stressful energy. For me, it helps tremendously.

You can either wear Rose Quartz as a piece of jewelry (bracelets, pendant, ring, earrings). Crystals like to be worn skin-to-skin and be close to you. If that’s not your cup of tea, you can always have it around your home, bedroom or your workspace.

I have a Rose Quartz sphere in my studio and whenever I look at it, I am immediately reminded to be gentle with myself and show myself a little bit of appreciation.

  • Note: If you are going to wear your jewelry pieces, remember to cleanse them regularly. They tend to absorb more energies the more that they are worn. Like a battery, they need to be charged and cleansed (:

With Rose Quartz, I love cleansing it with incense smoke or bathing it under cool water. During the Full Moon, I will leave it out for it to absorb the Moon’s rays and to charge.

*Disclaimer: Crystal healing is a wonderful healing modality to add into your practices but should NEVER take the place of medical care and intervention. If you are experiencing a true and real medical problem, please speak to your doctor!

I am sure that as I continue to think of other properties and magickal uses for Rose Quartz, I will add them to here. I hope that you enjoyed this entry! I cannot wait for next week’s crystal– I am between two crystals to discuss next week… but I will allow that to be a surprise!

Until then,

FB.

2024– The Come-Back Year!

Happy New Year, My Friends! I do know about you, but 2023 has been a year of struggles and rising from the ashes for me. Between having emergency surgery (and almost losing my own life) in July to having family struggles, I am waving good-bye to one of the hardest years of my life. Though, upon reflecting on it, 2023 did teach me how resilient I am. So, that’s a blessing and if I have learned anything, it is to count your blessings! (:

Last night, in the wake of welcoming in this glorious New Year, I was preparing myself for weeks to welcome in the New Year properly! I gathered each herb and artifact that I was to use and kept it safe in my studio, away from tainted energies. I thought it would be appropriate to share some of my magickal tips and rituals! In the past, I have done several different things: between cooking and baking to burning a list of what I was leaving behind in the previous year. Whatever works for you, you do! There is no wrong way to do it! The rituals and magickal practices that I am listing are ones that I have done last night and wanted to share with you! Perchance, these rituals may kindle a fire in someone to inspire one to try…and may even help someone (:

1.) Save your laundry (and dishes) for January 2nd!: Okay, so I will admit, I am being a wee bit superstitious about New Years after what I endured last year, but I started off my 2023 by doing several loads of laundry and dishes. Legends and superstitions claim the following:

  • When it comes to laundry and dishes, you do not want to wash away good luck or good fortune. You may potentially sweep away upcoming money.
  • There is also a superstition that you may potentially wash away a loved one.  

2.) Blow Cinnamon through your front door: Cinnamon is a power-house spice that you can find in any grocery store! It is used in rituals involving money, protection, prosperity, good luck and abundance workings. A ritual that I started to do after my surgery is on the first of the month, I blow cinnamon through my front door and into my home.

  • I keep a jar of cinnamon by my front door that I have blessed it specifically for blessing my home on the first of the month. I will charge it under the Full Moon’s rays to ensure that it is working to its full potential.

3.) Create a Manifestation Jar: My favorite ritual! In my personal jar, I have money/abundance/prosperity drawing herbs, coins, and other personal magickal items to open doors for opportunities! The intention as you are constructing this is to think about what you wish to manifest.

As I created mine, I lit incense, listened to joyful and uplifting music and I wrote from my heart. That is the true essence of magick– when you craft from your heart, you are in true alignment with your soul and its desires.

The herbs that I used are the following:

  • Tonka beans.
  • Cinnamon sticks.
  • Orange slices with anise stars glued onto them.
  • Allspice berries (though you can use ground!)
  • Whole Nutmeg (you can use ground!)
  • Patchouli.
  • Yellow mustard seeds.
  • Crushed rosemary.
  • Bay leaves to write your wishes on.

Before closing it, I breathed life into it and spoke to it. Each day, give it a little shake and speak to it. Remember, this is your hopes and dreams… and the intention is to allow it to come to life!

I also lit a green chime candle to fuel my spell.

4.) “Out with the old, in with the new.”: In Irish folklore, what I have read (and have done this every year for decades) is that at Midnight, you open up your back door/window and allow the old/precious year to exit. Then, you open the front door.

Over the years, I tweaked it:

  • I open my back door at 11:59PM and visualize the year and all of the hardships that I endured, escaping my home. Usually, I burn incense– it adds a degree of ritual and this is what that is!
  • At midnight, I open my front door and allow the New Year’s air to whip through my home in a cleansing sweep.

I go through my home, with smoke and will cleanse my home. Then, give my floors a lovely wash.

(Yes, this is all done at Midnight.)

5.) Don’t forget to ring in the New Year!: Take out your bells, whistles, pots and pans! Make noise! Yell, shout! Have joy and hope for a brand new slate! My family “rang” in the New Year at Midnight and it was wonderful!

6.) New Year’s Simmer Pot: I simply adore simmer pots! I plan on making on later this afternoon! It’s a great way to fill the house with a divine scent and you can magickally craft it. You can use whatever you have in your cupboard, depending upon what it is.

For my simmer pot, I will be using the following ingredients:

  • Cinnamon sticks.
  • Orange slices.
  • Frozen cranberries.
  • Rosemary.
  • Sunflower petals from my garden.
  • Calendula petals.
  • Bay leaves with intentions, written on each individual leaf.

7.) Burn a candle to light the way into a better tomorrow: Colors have power and intention. I mentioned a green chime candle but I also lit an additional green candle in my home. Green is the color that represents money, prosperity, healing, balance, peace, tranquility and hope!

8.) Dress for what you want to manifest: Piggy-backing on what I said about colors, for New Years, wear red for good luck and/or green for prosperity and abundance! I took it a step further (:

  • I wore one of my older Salem sweatshirts, that represents my home- a place that I will be moving back to… a place that my Ancestors have lived and died– my roots! I also wore my most colorful Finfolk mermaid leggings!
  • For my child, I dressed them in ‘Spiderman’ Pj’s: Spiderman is strong, brave, courageous, honest, helpful and a faithful and loyal friend. I wanted my child to emulate those treasured characteristics and embrace them in 2024!

Tonight, we will be doing the same thing! I have on my Finfolk mermaid leggings called ‘Sanderson’s spell’ which has colors of red and gold, perfect for ringing in the new year! And my child will be wearing Buzz Lightyear PJ’s!

My Friends, this is our year– it’s our come-back year! May all of your dreams come true. I wish you all great health, flowing of abundance and to be surrounded by those that bring your heart great joy.

Much love. Until next time.

-FB.

Happy October Eve!

Good day to you, Dearest Reader. I hope that this entry finds you with a smile on your face 😊

Would you care to take a walk down memory lane with me? I am feeling a tad bit nostalgic today.

To us, who have lived and worked in Salem, MA, this day, September 30th, is one that is similar to us as taking a deep breath before we dive deeply underwater for a while… or for the entire month of October. Tourists begin flooding our (beautiful and quiet) town, exploring it and treating it like it’s Disney World.

  • News flash: Salem is not an amusement park!

… But as I sit, I am thinking about all of the memories that I had about this day, it brings back so many laughs and smiles. What a magickal day it is!

So, pull up a chair and brew yourself a cup of tea or coffee and allow me to tell you a tale about the time when I worked at a Witchcraft shoppe in Salem, MA as a (Witch) shoppe girl…

I always worked on September 30th. I would wake up earlier on this particular day to avoid the tourists. I wanted to make sure that I would be able to get my take-out breakfast special at the Gulu-Gulu café: the vegetarian breakfast sandwich on a spinach bagel (if you are curious, the sandwich consisted of eggs, cheddar cheese, peppers and onions) and a PSL with 6 shots of expresso. Don’t judge me too harshly over there, Dear Reader! I would work from open to close on this day… and would stay way past close to make sure that the shoppe was perfect for October 1st.

Once I scarfed down my breakfast, it was off to work I went. I’d open the shoppe and make sure that it was up and running. In the shoppe, we had an Ancestral Altar that I’d always make sure got some ‘extra’ love. As a Medium who is connected to Spirit, I took care of the Spirits and would make sure to bring them tokens of affection, especially during the month of October.

My co-workers were my second family and oh, how I loved them all. We all worked together so well and we were the true testimony of what team work meant. Each of us had our strengths and roles that we executed with perfection and precision. The shoppe was run like a ship– we all knew our roles and knew how to work together to survive the flood of crowds that would be coming in. And lemme tell you, we rocked every single day, especially in October🤘🏻

Assisting the customers and clients that walked into the shoppe were a joy and pleasure. I loved being able to help each of them with their troubles: whether it was love related matters, re-connecting with their psychic natures or finding a money spell to help them bring more abundance into their lives. I loved talking to people from different backgrounds. As a Witch, most importantly, it was my responsibility to help people. Being able to teach and advise was (and is) something that I took (and still take) a significant joy in. It’s my passion, my first love.

I was notorious for singing and dancing around the shoppe. The energy of the people were intoxicating to me and I loved dancing with that energy. It was my way of heightening it, playing with it and keeping the energies moving from within.

  • A favorite memory of mine is when it started to lightly rain and the shoppe was getting a wee bit tired. It was about 2o minutes until closing time. I remember the song “Voodoo” by Godsmack came on and I was dancing within the shoppe. Several people who saw me dancing across the street at Gulu-Gulu were curious about what I was doing. They paid their tab to come dance, sing and shop with me. It was magickally fantastic! 🤣

When it came time to close up the shoppe for the evening, that’s when our work began– my co-workers and I had to re-set the entire store. Surprisingly, that was my favorite part! We’d restocked all the candles, incense, tarot decks, books, herbs and any other magickal item that needed to be put out. The store was swept thoroughly, dusted heavily and mopped well. I would always wipe down the psychic’s tables and chairs with my own Florida water recipe as a way to clear way that energy and keep it fresh for the next batch of client’s that would be occupying those seats. Every item: pendulum, statuary, jewelry, wand and/or athame was put back out on the counters and the display’s as well. When we were finished cleaning, the shoppe had a beautiful golden glow. It was magick.

I had a little ritual that I did before the alarm would be set for the night. I would walk around the shop, double and triple checking to make sure that everything was perfect and in its place. I would make sure that every spot was cleaned and organized. Once it was, I would say ‘Goodnight’ to the Ancestral Altar with my partings until tomorrow. Alarm would be set and off we’d go, I’d always blew a kiss behind me as I left. The door would close and be locked. Off into the night we’d go– saying our goodnight’s to each other and “See you tomorrow.”

I remember walking home thinking that I had the best job in the world. And years later, I can sit here with an honest heart saying that it was. It truly was.

I am wishing all of my Salem loved ones an incredible season! I will be joining you all next year, I hope! 🤞🏻💚

Welcoming Autumn with a wee bit of ‘Intuitive journaling.’

Happy Autumn Equinox, everyone! We are finally in the best season, in my opinion and I am so happy to welcome it back into my life! Bring on all the Autumn activities– scary movies, snuggly blankets, delicious chili and soups, warm beverages and fire pits… and the list can go on! (: Over on this end of the world, it was a gloomy cold and wet day. Not much frolicking about, I’m afraid but I did make a delicious pot of chili! So, it was a win-win.

As we welcome in Autumn’s magick and all of its glorious energies, it had me thinking a bit. A great chunk of my day, I spent in my studio where I rearranged, cleaned and organized my desk and my altar. I came across my journal and I sat down to write a whopping 13 pages! I love to write. It’s very therapeutic for me to sit with a pen and paper and allow the words to flow. One of the reasons for my entry today is because I became inspired, you see. One of my rituals, if you will, that I love to do is think about intentions that I wish to set for myself. I lit some incense, rubbed some of my ‘Palo Santo’ oil on my hands and breathed deeply the scent. Then, I began to do what I love to do: write.

If this ‘intention setting’ is something that you’d like to attempt to incorporate into your life, whether you are a magickal practitioner or not, here’s a few tips that I found to be extra helpful. Let’s dive into ‘intention journaling.’

Since I was a wee girl, I have always loved journaling. I remember the first time I was gifted a journal. I was about 9 years old and I wrote everything down. I was fascinated with the fact that I could tell stories… and I could write whatever it was that I wanted to. It was mine. No one could tell me “no, that’s not correct” or what have you. Writing has always been that power in my life that I could turn to and channel whatever it was that I needed to get out or explain.

With the seasons changing, I tend (and I do not know if you are the same way) but I begin to go inward, like the Hermit, and work on my shadow self (because we all need to tend to that darkness).

Here’s a few tips for intuitive journaling (:

1.) I am a very atmospheric witch. I love the candles, the music, the incense– I love it all. When I am about to journal, I set my space up like I would be preparing for ritual because in my own way, I am doing magick.

  • Before you begin to compose an entry, put on some light music or whatever helps you get into a creative mind space.
    • Depending upon my mood, I will meditate before hand.
    • I also like to burn incense and will rub oil on my hands to breathe in. It helps amplify intention and keeps me present.

2.) I use pens that are solely dedicated to my journaling/writing and I do not go mixing them about with anything else:

  • My pens get cleansed, charged and stored away just like I would any other magickal tool. I find that it heightens their magick (:
    • I do love color so I love to add that into my writing as well. There is a lot of magick in color and the days of the week that tie into each other.
  • When I journal, I also like to draw either an oracle card or a tarot card as a ‘card of the day.’ It acts as a focal point of intention.

3.) I write. If I make a mistake, so what. I keep going and allow what needs to come out to come out. Write what you feel. Be led by your intuition. It is a powerful thing.

4.) When not in use, I store my journal, writing utensils and crystals in a book/box called “Witch’s Handbook.” I found it at Homegoods while I was scouring for Halloween decor (: I am sure you’ve seen them– they are boxes that look like books! It’s very incognito so no one would suspect that there was anything ‘weird’ in there. Plus, I loved the title of it! It was the perfect size for storing my journal and supplies in there. Thus, that’s where they go! (:

5.) The most important rule about intuitive journaling is to allow yourself to write and not hold back. Sure, I mentioned that in point 3 but it is worth mentioning that again. And there is no limit for how much or how often you journal!

  • During the times when I am deep in my shadow work, I will journal a few times a day to write things down. There is no wrong way. Only your way.

What are some of your intentions for the Autumn season? With the turning of the Wheel, what would you like to become more aware of? Feel free to comment.

Until next time, Dear Reader. Stay safe, stay well, and stay true to you.

FB.

Shadow work: Advice for my younger self.

Take two! Mercury Retrograde is in full swing over in this house. I had an entire entry composed and I was attempting to submit it… but WordPress was having “technical issues.” I lost the entire entry! 😖 Note to self: as I compose future entries, save along the way!

Anyway, I am back at it again to write this entry because I feel like this will benefit someone out there who will potentially read this one day, maybe.

As we are approaching the Autumn season (if you haven’t gathered, I am all about that Autumnal Magick), I tend to turn into the Hermit and do a lot of shadow work. Shadow work is an important work to integrate into your craft. Does it suck? Yes. Is it beneficial for our healing? Yes. Shadow work helps us to appreciate our darker selves while bringing to light what we need to work on within ourselves. Something that has been coming up a lot for me is, “What advice would I bestow upon my younger self if I had the opportunity to do it?” This past weekend, I have been making notations and these were my discoveries.

I submit these to you as well, Dear Reader, in the hopes that perhaps that they maybe of a comfort to you as well. Here goes nothing.

  1. Be true to yourself.
  2. Follow that internal beat of the drum within your soul. That’s your heart, guiding you along your journey.
  3. Laugh, a lot, even if it’s at yourself. Laughter is the best medicine in times of great distress. It makes your soul smile.
  4. Don’t forget to smile. A smile is contagious and can light up the room!
  5. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no.’ It’s your strongest boundary.
  6. Love. Love, to love. And don’t be afraid of it. As the late Jonathan Larson said, “share love, give love, spread love.” He knew the message.
  7. Your body is beautiful! Love those curves, dimples, hips! Give your body some extra love because it deserves it. Cherish it.
  8. Wear whatever the fuck you want. Don’t wear clothes to fit your body! Wear clothes that make your body look and feel amazing.
  9. Self-care is not being selfish. It’s an act of self-love.
  10. Invest in yourself because you are worth it. And let’s face it, not too many people will invest in you if you don’t have the confidence to invest in you.
  11. Take that chance… that ‘leap of faith’ could be your saving grace.
  12. Failure happens. It will teach you about how resilient you are. And the come back, especially when others do not think you will pull through and succeed, is delicious!
  13. Follow and listen to your intuition. It is always right.
  14. You see the world through a unique lens and the way that you gather messages is your unique way. No one has the right to diminish that ability.
  15. Do not give anyone the power to take away your voice or your power. Once you do, it’ll take you a life time of struggling and fighting to get it back.
  16. If you close a door and walk away from someone or something, good– keep it closed. Don’t open it. People don’t change.
  17. Words are just that, words. Actions have more credibility.
  18. Believe in yourself.
  19. Love yourself.
  20. “Heal with Grace.”
  21. It is never too late to study something new or try new things. Go for it!
  22. Eat the best that you can, exercise and take care of your body. In this life time, you only get one vessel.
  23. You are never too young or too old to learn something new.
  24. Never be afraid of walking away from something or someone that doesn’t bring you happiness, especially if it’s not healthy.
  25. Starting over can look and feel scary but it’s also refreshing. It’s a re-do, a fresh slate!
  26. Crying is not a sign of weakness. It’s a powerful release.
  27. Cursing does not make you less of a lady. It just means that you have a colorful vocabulary.
  28. You cannot please everyone nor is everyone you meet going to like you. And that’s fine. Be the radiant, bad ass, amazing person that you are and own the shit out of it.
    • To further my point: there are 46 flavors of Häagen-Dazs’ ice cream, did you know that? Some flavors you will like… others, you won’t. The same can be said about people.
  29. “Breathe in peace, breathe out bullshit.”
  30. Not everything is “love and light” and if someone tries to convince you that it is, they are delusional. Run, don’t walk.

So far, that’s my list… (:

“A Shift in Perspective: The Hanged Woman.”

Good morning, Folks! I just posted my card of the day on Instagram and while the card’s message still lingered in my thoughts, I wanted to hop on here and give a wee entry. Who knows, perhaps someone will benefit from this entry. I hope. I did say that I was going to try to write more– even if it was just for myself. So, here we go:

Today’s card is the “Hanged Woman” from the “Tarot of the Witch’s Garden” deck. This brought up a core memory for me. Back in the day, I was studying the aerial silks. I became fascinated with the way you could contort your body and move with the silk… and dance with it. I was in love. I watched videos on Youtube about learning different moves to try and took classes every week. I couldn’t wait to get on the silks and be one with them. One day, when it was wicked slow in the studio and class was running late, I took out my tarot cards and gave them a shuffle. As I sat, swinging on the silk like you would on a swing, a card floated out of the deck and fell upon the floor. It was “The Hanged Man.” I was instantly intrigued by this message.

I will never forget the first time that I voluntarily put myself in the “Hang man’s pose.” At first, there was a moment of discomfort. I mean, I was, essentially, bound to the silks with one foot/ankle/part shin only. I could have fallen out of it and injured myself. Once I was able to get over the panic of the position, I was able to breathe and allow myself to calm down… and relax. At that point, the blood was rushing to my head and had to figure out how to get out of it, so I did. But what I took away from that first “attempt” was that I figured out how to do the pose on my own. And I was going to figure it out again and bring it into my meditation practice in some form or another. I wanted to uncover the true message of the Hanged Man. It took another two tries, but once I got it, I had it. Suspending myself, I was able to allow myself to be. I wasn’t afraid of falling out of it. I wasn’t afraid of anything. I had trust in myself. I breathed through this position– in and out, deeply. If there was something on my mind and I brought it to the silks, I was able to see the solution from a different perspective because I was suspended. Something clicked being upside down and made sense for me there.

The lessons that I learned from my experience as being “The Hanged Woman” (quite literally) are this:

  • Don’t be afraid to shift your perspective:
    • Seeing something from another angle is beneficial because it’ll help you see a solution to something that you didn’t know was there.
    • This will also help you formulate a plan and better yet, give you options!
  • Don’t be afraid of getting a wee bit comfortable:
    • That’s life. It’s uncomfortable– but it’s a process that we all must work through.
    • Think of shadow work. That can be uncomfortable but in order for us to heal and move on from trauma, we all have to do the work on ourselves. We are worth it!
  • Breathe throughout your experience:
    • Never hold in your breath. As stressed out humans, we tend to hold in our breath way too much. If you are going to practice, say yoga poses, remember to breathe through the positions.
  • Within the position itself, there is a lesson that is there to help teach everyone something.
    • What that lesson is, that’s up for you to discover (:

Here’s a light meditation that you can do too for all of my magickal practitioners out there:

  • Wear comfortable clothes.
  • Go into your tarot deck and search for your “Hanged Man/Woman” card.
    • Prior to doing this meditation, make sure that your deck/card is cleansed.
    • You want to make sure that it is working fresh and clean for you!
  • Fetch a yoga mat or a towel… pillows too, if you prefer.
  • Find a place within your home/space that you will be undisturbed for a bit.
  • Light some incense… select a playlist… burn a candle… have a diffuser going… set the ambiance of your space for magick!
    • If you like, you can bring some crystals into your space too!
  • Call upon your guides for protection.
    • Depending upon who reads this, I will always put this in here.
  • Have a journal, a pen and water at the ready for you.
  • When you feel ready, approach your mat and sit down.
  • With the tarot card in front of you, take some time to study it.
    • What insight do you wish that ‘The Hanged Man/Woman’ to teach you today?
  • Lay down, mimicking the position of the figure.
    • Rest. Breathe. Allow yourself to go deeper.
    • Take in the messages.
  • Meditation: Close your eyes. Take deep breaths and allow yourself to sink deeper into your body. Relax. When you are ready to meet your guide, you’ll feel a pull in your solar plexus. Journey to them. They will await you. Tell them why you have come and what you are seeking to understand. You may find that you are already upside down with them. Remember that you are safe.
  • *If at any point your are uncomfortable, come out of the position.
    • Your safety and comfortability is vitally important. Remember that.
  • When you are ready to come out of the mediation, thank your guide and come back.
  • Clear your space. Drink some water. Write down what has happened.

I do a variation of that short meditation every now and then. I always come out of my meditation with clarity. I hope that it helps you too.

Until we meet again,

FB.

Is there such a thing as having too many decks? 🧐

Good morning, my Friends! I hope that your day is starting off wonderful and with a lovely cup of tea or coffee– which ever your preference (:

Yesterday, I received a stunning tarot deck in the mail. It’s called “Tarot of the Witch’s Garden” by Sasha Graham. I have been shuffling this deck all night and anointing it with my favorite oil. It’s part of my bonding process with the cards because yes, there is a process with them! I am prepping it to read for clients come Monday so it’s part of my ritual of breaking it in and cleansing it. Perhaps, I will do a post about that process in the next few days so if you’re interested in learning more about that, keep a look out! (:

But anyway, it had me thinking. I lost track of all the decks that I have accumulated since I started collecting them from when I was a teenager. At this point, I probably have well over 80+ decks (tarot/oracle). What draws me to them is the art work. I am a sucker for a beautifully illustrated deck– if it speaks to me, I get it. I also loooooove to shuffle cards! If the cards are made with a great card stock, have beautiful art work and shuffle like a dream, I am sold!

When I was 18 years old, I had to have two hand surgeries (nothing too serious), and part of my therapy, believe it or not, was shuffling cards… well, I used my tarot cards (despite the size) but for me, those are precious to me and it made me, despite all of the pain that I was in, want to shuffle those cards. I would shuffle through the pain and discomfort because I had something that I loved in my hands– something familiar and something that was important to me. It made it worth while to be able to play with my cards. Ha- I have fond memories of working in Salem and when it was a slow moment in the shoppe, I would buy a tarot deck (or decks because that’s where a significant chunk of my collection came from) and would shuffle cards. Plus, for tourists to come into a witch shoppe, it did look wicked to be greeted by a witch, playing with tarot cards and dancing/singing around the shoppe. Nothing out of the norm, right?

I have gotten to a point in my practice where I have my established cards that I use: I have a deck that I use solely on myself. I have a deck that I use on clients. I have a deck that if friends or family would like a reading, I will take it out and use it on them. I have an oracle deck or two that I will use in between readings. In theory, I do not need all of these cards– yet– I still have ’em!

I have been contemplating going through my collection and perhaps purging some of my decks, especially ones that haven’t been used in close to 5+ years. It is time that they find a home and get used/loved/played with. If you are in a similar boat, something that you could do, and I was inspired by this at the Witch City Tarot Gathering, was that they have something called a Tarot Swap, which I will definitely be participating in next year. If you have a few friends, a coven or a community, I am sure you could do this too! Essentially, you bring all of your unused/unwanted decks and gather them all on a table– set them out and practitioners go through them and pick the ones that they wish to “adopt.” I think it’s great because the cards are getting re-homed!

I do like to collect Halloween themed tarot/oracle decks though… but that’s different story, I am keeping those babies.

What about you? Are you similar? Feel free to leave a comment!
Until then, speak soon!

F.

Scrying is food for the soul.

Good morning, Friends! I wanted to hop on here for a wee entry and talk a bit about scrying! I just posted my ‘card of the day’ on Instagram (IG: thebishopwitch) and while it was fresh on my mind, why not! Plus, my incense is still wafting throughout my studio and it was giving me inspiration to write.

Scrying is a magickal practice, a form of divination, that where the scryer peers into a reflective device, while remaining in a relaxed and trance-like state, to receive guidance, insight, clarity and can sometimes even see images from spirit. This takes time and practice— it does not happen overnight.

When I was learning about psychic abilities in elementary school, scrying was one of the abilities that I bonded closely with besides seeing spirits and slinging tarot cards. Yes, I was “that girl” with the crystals, dried herbs/flowers and tarot cards in my violin case as I walked around school grounds, especially as I later went onto high school and college. Scrying, for me, opened up many doors for me in a personal/spiritual way, and it’s a subject that I love talking about.

Some tools and methods that you can use for scrying are:

  • The crystal ball: made famously from TV media, but it’s a classic way to do it.
  • A cauldron (or water safe container) filled with water: A very Avalonian practice.
    • Within the Avalonian Tradition, we work a lot with this method. We like to scry with water.
  • Incense burning: observing the way the incense wafts in the air.
    • This is how I begin my day. It relaxes me. Plus, I find it fun to see what comes out of the incense.
      • Witchy Auntie Freya Witch Tip: Before I burn it, I love to set an intention with the cone incense to help better direct energies. I always receive the clarity that I am seeking when I do this.
  • Candle burning: watching the way the flame dances.
    • I love doing this. As someone who has a lot of Fire energy in their chart, this is one of those activities that calms my spirit down.
  • Clouds in the sky: an age old method!
  • Seafoam in the ocean: as a Sea Witch, I love doing this. It is one of my favorite Ocean magick activities.
  • The black mirror, made of Obsidian.

Each day, I like to dedicated at least 30 minutes to an hour to my scrying practice. For me, it’s like meditating.

For those who are interested in learning about scrying and are curious as to ‘where to begin’? My best advice is to jump right into it– but you have to do some preparations. I am all about setting your space up for any type of magickal/psychic work:

“Setting your ambiance”, I call it.

  • I would find a place/space in your home where you know you can do this type of work and you know that you won’t be disturbed. You will have to clean this space… bless it…
    • Remember: you are creating this space for magickal workings.
  • Make sure that your scrying tool has been cleansed, blessed and charged.
  • With opening up your psychic centers, call in your protective guides, Gods, Goddesses, Animal Sprits, ETC…!
    • I cannot stress this enough. If you are brand new to ‘awakening’ yourself, start slow and take your time.
      • Not all spirits are good spirits.
  • Design a play list to help you get “in the mood.”
    • If all else fails, you can even go on Youtube and find different playlists for scrying. There are so many wonderful options out there.
  • Light candles and incense to enhance your scrying experience.
  • Journal!
  • Replenish yourself:
    • With doing any type of psychic work, you need to eat and drink.
  • Remember to close out your session:
    • After all psychic work, thank the spirits and say a ‘goodbye’ to close the energies.
    • Give the space as well as yourself a cleansing.

Hopefully, this helps someone out there and provides insight. I must run. My house is now awake and chaos is ensuing.

Ta-ta for now.

F.

11/24: Card of The Day- 3 of Wands

Good morning, Friends! As usual, I hope that this entry finds you well. I am reporting here for our daily card of the day.

Today’s insight is the 3 of Wands. Allow me to take you on a journey with the imagery found in this card:

As you walk up towards the cliff, you hear the sounds of the sea. Very similar to the way that music moves you, the sea’s gentle song calls you forward. As you approach the edge of the cliff, you find three ‘poles’, planted firmly in the ground. Out of curiosity, you reach out and touch one of the poles to see how stable it is. Depending upon what type of person you are, you may even attempt to pull and shake the pole to see if it’ll move by your force. Your attention calls you to look out into the horizon. Nothing but open sea and two ships, gliding along the water with ease. You watch as these ships move steadily through the sea, making their journey closer to land. No rough waters can be detected. No storms are looming overhead. It is smooth sailing. As you stand on this ‘vantage point’ as I will call it, you are in a position where you can see if trouble would be brewing. If there are challenges approaching, you would be the person that would see it and signal to the others to watch out or even devise a plan to avoid upcoming challenges. Before making your way back towards the land, you stop to pick up a single seashell in perfect condition that sat right next to your right foot. You pocket this little sea treasure and look out at the sea one more time. It’s a big world out there that holds endless possibilities. What new opportunities are out there for you? Are you seeking to embark on an adventure? Taking a deep breath, a smile glides across your face. “A leap of faith,” you say to yourself, and you take the first step forward on your journey.

Whenever this card comes up in a reading or a card pull, this symbolizes that it is time for you to expand your horizons and take a risk. Perhaps you’ve been wanting to make a change in your life but have been too afraid to make it. Perhaps you’ve been slowly making steps to better your future, whether it be personal life, spiritual life, going back to school/taking a class or your career (maybe it’s even a career change!). Sometimes when it comes to a new path or choice in life, it can be frightening to make these necessary changes and move forward. Let’s face it: you aren’t happy and are feeling stagnant. Because you are on the fence about making these changes, you may even start scaring yourself into thinking about the “what if’s.” However, you’ve been thinking about make this change for quite sometime. You even started brainstorming on how to make this goal a reality. So, why wait? If you are looking for a sign if this is the right time, let this be it! “The time is now.” With a few more preparations and support, you will be ready!

To break down the symbolism in the card itself:

  • The ships symbolize your plans of moving forward, a progression.
  • The three ‘poles’ represent your commitment to your plans.
  • The horizon symbolizes your world and how endless your potential is.
  • The sea will carry you onto your next destination. Maybe there’s an opportunity for you overseas!
  • Looking out into the horizon symbolizes the vantage point aspect, being able to “see” what’s ahead.
  • The small seashell next to our wand represents opportunity to make more money. Back in the day, seashells were used as currency!

You got this! I believe in you! The question is, do you believe in yourself?

Stay well and have a magickal day,

FB.